Welcome to the
 Young Sibs Page
      
 
Here you will be able to:
Check out books for young sibs and preteens

Read below what other kids say about being a SIB
If you would like us to include your story please contact us  

                    If you have any questions send them to us via the contact us page and we will add them to our Q&A page

Read our Tips for young SIBS

 

Brothers and sisters are very important. They keep us company, have fun with us and sometimes teach us things.
If you have come to this web page it means you must have a brother or sister with disability or an illness. There are all kinds of disability and illness. Some are more serious than others. Most times kids with disability can do lots of things that we can all do but others need much more help.
 
Having a brother or sister with disability or serious illness can sometimes make life more complicated. You probably love and care lots about your brother or sister and they probably help to teach you things like being more patient, and understanding that everyone is different and that is ok.
The disability or illness is just one part of your brother or sister. We all have things we do well and things we don't do so well or we have things that are different about us. We are all unique. As one sibling said to her mum, "well johnny has autism, I have asthma, what do you have mum?" The mum felt a bit left out!

You might have fun times with your brother or sister and feel proud of what they can achieve. But at other times, it can be difficult and you might not understand what is happening around you. They might get more attention because they need more help to do things - and that can leave you feeling like you are not as important. Sometimes it can be difficult to play with them or they might hurt you.
 
You might feel sorry for all the things they can't do, and maybe guilty about the things you can do. At the same time, you might not know how to explain things to people you meet, or you might feel embarrassed when friends come home and your brother or sister may behave in an unusual way. You or they might be teased or bullied by other kids.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are lots and lots of children who know how you feel - other siblings can understand the good and not so good things you might feel about having a brother or sister with disability or illness.
 
And there are adults who understand too. We have put together a list of things that might help in our Tips for Sibs page - just click on the link at the top of the page.




What other kids say about being a sib

Hi my name is Annabelle and I am 10 years old. I have a sister called Sally and another one called Lucy, who is 2 years old. Sally is 7 years old and has epilepsy and there is something wrong with her brain that means she behaves like she is younger than she really is. There are some good and bad things about this.

Some of the bad things about Sally's disability include:
• She hits, pinches and pushes me a lot.
• She doesn't understand when you say "don't do that" to her.
• She touches all my things and sometimes breaks things of mine.
• She can't shower herself and so I have to have a shower with her and help to wash her hair and body, even though she is 7 years old.
• She embarrasses me sometimes, when we go out because she tickles everybody and has a lot of tantrums.
• She has seizures and sometimes I get scared because I don't think she will stop and will keep going.
• She can't play with me very well.

Some of the good things about my sister include:
• She doesn't have to go to the same school as me because she goes to a special school.
• I get to skip school sometimes so I can go to Sally's school for the day to see what her school is like.
• She can be lots of fun, when she wants to be.
• I get to go to a Siblings group, where I have lots of fun with other siblings.
• I get to go to the Family Fun Day.
• I have learnt a lot about the problems people with disabilities and their families face.
• I love my sister, despite her disabilities.
• I hope by reading this you will understand a bit more about what it is like to have Sally for a sister.

Hi my name is Alysha I am 9 years old. My favourite food is chocolate, my favourite sport is basketball. I have a brother who is 4 and a sister, she is 11. My sister has trichotillomania, which means she pulls out her hair. There are good things and bad things about my sister having trich.

I don't like her having trich because she gets more attention than me and she leaves hair all over the ground and it gets stuck on my socks and when I say "don't pull your hair" she says she's not .

A good thing about my sister having trich is that we got a cat. The good thing about my sister is she plays with me, she does stuff for me and helps me when I need help. The bad thing about my sister - she is silly at times and she can be mean to me.

   
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