This section is still under construction but will provide a listing of books for different groups and ages. In some cases, we provide a link to purchasing the book – we do not endorse any of these sites, but provide for your information. You can also use the information to search at a library. Some of the books are written specifically for siblings, others have themes that can be useful for starting conversations about feelings etc with children, in particular. If you know of any good books relating to the sib experience for siblings of any age, parents or professionals please email us with your suggestions.

Young siblings (4-8 years)

My Brother, Matthew by Mary Thompson 1992 Woodbine House USA. This book offers a sibling’s point of view of the ups and downs of life when his brother is born with a disability.

We’ll Paint the Octopus Red by Stephanie Stuve-Bodee 1998 Woodbine House USA. Six-year-old Emma has big dreams for her new baby brother. But when she learns that he has Down syndrome, she is not so sure. This is a reassuring story for young children as well as parents adjusting to Down syndrome.

What About Me? When Brothers and Sisters Get Sick by Alan Peterkin 1992 Magination Press USA. What about me? This question lies at the heart of this poignant story, as a young girl attempts to cope with her brother being ill. The story deals with the many complicated feelings that the brother or sister who is not ill experiences in such a situation.

Andy and his Yellow Frisbee by Mary Thompson 1996 Woodbine House USA. Like many children with autism, Andy has a fascination with objects in motion. Rosie, his watchful and protective sister, supplies a sibling’s perspective on Andy and autism.

Pre-teen siblings (9-13 years)

Tru Confessions by Janet Tashjian 2007 Square Fish USA. Twelve-year-old Tru wants two things more than anything else – to find a cure for her twin brother, Eddie, who has a developmental delay, and to create her own television show. Written in the form of a computer diary by the sassy heroine, this refreshingly humorous novel sensitively portrays the struggles and triumphs of living with a brother or sister with special needs.

Special Brothers and Sisters edited by Annette Hames and Monica McCaffery 2005 Jessica Kingsley Publishers UK. A collection of real-life accounts from the brothers and sisters, aged from 3 to 18 years, of children with a disability in the UK.

Views from our Shoes: Growing Up with a Brother or Sister with Special Needs edited by Don Meyer 1997 Woodbine House USA. A collection of real-life accounts from the brothers and sisters, aged from 4 to 18 years, of children with a disability in the US.


Siblings of Children with Autism: A Guide for Families by Sandra Harris 2003 Woodbine House USA. This is an invaluable guide to understanding sibling relationships, how autism affects these relationships and what families can do to support their other children as they cope with the intensive needs of a child with autism.

Siblings: Brothers and Sisters of Children with Disability by Kate Strohm (revised edition) 2012 Wakefield Press Australia. This book is based on the author’s own experience as a sibling and on extensive interviews she conducted with brothers and sisters of a child with a disability of all ages. It provides insight, practical advice and support.